In case your words were ineffective to start with, remixing them without feedback through the person hearing them might not can even make a difference.

Instead, start with requesting opinions: “How do you really translate what I only stated?” Or: “We don’t think We described me really — just what do you notice?” Those tend to be good areas to start unpacking a misunderstanding. Both ones allows you to starting a discussion with a cooperative heart rather than one infused with a desire to somehow “win” the conversation by showing your terms were best in addition to their ears are completely wrong. Continue reading →