To blame will be the concealed cause, the silent, pre-existing shatter-readiness of which we were unaware.

Whenever most of us think of triggers, we think of guns and specifically the shooting method. The trigger on a gun is a thing you opt to extract. You take a conscious activity, and thus of the motion, the bullet fires. With people — and relationships — triggers are inverted. A trigger is a pre-existing state, a tripwire from inside the other person that you inadvertently brought about by claiming or doing things, creating a pre-programmed impulse over that other individual has actually little or no regulation. Continue reading →