My activities in non-monogamy trained me personally that it is required that I rev up and communicate out on my personal behalf, no matter if they thought really uneasy to do this. Starting this particular discussion, and witnessing exactly how he handles they, will tell you a LOT concerning man. If he welcomes they and is also open in reading your on, that’s close. If he gets twitchy or attempts to hide behind their self-esteem problems or refuses to negotiate boundaries, that isn’t brilliant.
I think “setting up” have a section on mono/poly items; it could be worth a browse. (I can’t in good conscience advise the oft-recommended “Ethical Slut” for anyone inside condition — or for individuals, truly — it is too rah-rah and aerie-faerie and glosses across the dark part of polyamory.) posted by nacho fries